How to intensify your orgasm

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As with anything in life, there can always be room for improvement – and that includes how much you enjoy sex. So, even if you have succeeded in reaching that elusive climax between the sheets, there are ways that you can intensify your orgasm and have it last longer. Yes, really! Transform the ‘O’ into ‘O.M.G’ and learn how to intensify your orgasm with our hot and heavy tips from sex expert Alix Fox. Think sex toys, ‘ledging’, foreplay and meditative tantric sex techniques…

Workout in more ways than one

Did you know that a strong pelvic floor muscle can be your free pass to orgasmic euphoria? Get in those kegal muscle exercises every day to strengthen it up. And contrary to popular belief, this rule does not just apply to women. Men can contract the muscles too, which can lead to greater control during sex.

Other forms of exercise can give you a boost in the bedroom, too. For men, getting pumped in the gym or going for a run can release more testosterone into the body. When this hormone is in the bloodstream before engaging in sexual activity, it can help lead to a more intense climax. And for women, studies have shown that regular exercise can lead to greater sexual arousal.

Patience is a virtue

While reaching climax is usually the aim of the game, try and hold it off for as long as possible for a more intense finale (also known as ‘edging’). It’s a little easier said than done and may require some practice, but bringing yourself to an ‘almost’ orgasm and then stopping (and doing this on repeat for as long as you can) can lead to more satisfying finish.

Try ‘ledging’

If you’ve mastered ‘edging’ then here’s a technique that goes one further. In ‘ledging’, you use a small unisex vibrator (like Lovehoney’s Excite 10 Bullet) to tickle your hot spots until you’re almost in O Town, then take the toy off your body and pass it to your partner while you cool down, taking turns until you both melt. Why the name? Because you’ll both feel legendary!

Vibrators work wonderfully on a woman’s clitoris, and can be held against a man’s shaft, traced around the head of the penis or used to circle his or her nipples. Wrap it in a pair of silky panties to change up the sensations, or if direct vibration feels too full-on.

All Lovehoney Toys Lovehoney Excite 10 Function Bullet Vibrator £10.99

Get kitted out

Give your bedside drawer (you know the one, we don’t need to spell it out) a revamp by investing in some new add-ons. Experiment with different varieties of lube to bring introduce a different sensation – think warming, tingling and flavoured.

WooWoo’s Arousal Boosting Sexual Lubricant is water-based, which means it’s safe to use with toys. It’s infused with the Mexican herbal aphrodisiac Damiana, too, so it’s great for getting you and your partner in the climaxing mood.

Or how about YESforLove’s All Over Peach Apricot Flavour Massage Gel for spicing things up in the bedroom? This 3-in-1 gel can be used as a smooth intimate lube, a massage oil or a delicious oral sex oil – your choice!

Focus on foreplay

Never underestimate the power of foreplay. If you’re guilty of skipping the warm-up before the main event, then take sex out of the equation and focus on everything but. This will lead to a more drawn out build-up of stimulation with a more intense payoff.

Whether you choose to use toys and lubes during foreplay is up to you. Toys such as the Lovehoney Rabbit Love Ring and Kandid Clit Vibrator help dial up the intensity by offering targeted pleasure to get you ready for the climax (literally!).

All Lovehoney Toys Lovehoney Ignite 20 Function Vibrating Rabbit Love Ring Aqua £29.99

Tantric tips

Tantric sex is all about slowing things down and adopting meditative techniques to prolong the sexual journey. By creating an intimate mind-body connection with your partner, you’ll be able to unlock more powerful orgasms.

You don’t need to be a sex-pert to trial tantric techniques. Instead, try and work in a few small tweaks and changes, like your breathing method. Move with every stroke of breath and slow it right down so that it is following the motion of your thrusts.

Here are some other tips to get you started:

Create a cosy space with candles and mood lighting. Set your room to a comfortable temperature before you begin
Stretch for a few minutes beforehand, clearing your mind of negative thoughts as you release tension on every limb

When you’re ready to start, sit in front of your partner and look into each other’s eyes before starting to slowly move your bodies
After five minutes, take turns to gently massage each other’s neck, arms, legs and other body parts
Wait another five minutes before kissing and focus on how you’re feeling in the moment

Now you can focus on building your connection, allowing to intensity to grow before ending in sex (if you both feel like it).